Big Love: Secrets from Soulmates Arielle & Brian

Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old finding Big Love is always possible. Email your questions to: soulmatesecret@yahoo.com

Dear Arielle & Brian,

Two years ago, the love of my life left me. We are gay but she told me she didn't want to be gay anymore and was on a religious tangent. Six months later she was in a relationship with another woman. Our passionate connection was indescribable. Our intense magnetic bond was not only physical but emotional & spiritual. However, she left me so I obviously wasn't "the one" for her anymore.

She always said we had a "special" relationship and I honestly feel she still loves me and will return to me someday. I guess you could say I'm obsessed with her. We've had no contact and I don't know whether to keep my love for her alive in my heart (as I have for the past two years) or let her go and manifest a new soulmate.

Thank you for your help.

Susannah

Dear Susannah,

Here's the question to ask yourself: do I want to spend my life with someone who loves, cherishes and adores me? And if so, by when? If you answered yes, and soon, then it’s time to let her go and open yourself to new love. Otherwise you can wait, and remain in this state of obsession (your words not ours) and hope she comes back. But, even if she comes back, is this the relationship of your dreams? Or, to be honest, is it even healthy? In the book The Path to Love, Deepak Chopra beautifully outlines the spiritual meaning of love and how it is best measured:

Love can heal, renew, make us safe, inspire us, and bring us closer to God.

Susannah, if you were completely honest with yourself, is your current situation invoking these feelings of love? We all have many potential soulmates (lets remember there are 6.5 billion people on the planet and right now you only need one) so you get to choose who to devote your time, energy and life to with the prize ultimately being a soulmate to experience the type of love Deepak so eloquently describes. Isn’t this what your heart is really calling for?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle & Brian

Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle, a DVD club dedicated to providing movies about love and compassion. She is the author of seven books including the HOT CHOCOLATE FOR THE MYSTICAL SOUL series and her newest book THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a life-long interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion. They live in La Jolla, CA www.soulmatesecret.com and www.soulmatekit.com

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