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Excerpt from Giving You the WOW and the HOW: 44 Tips from the Millionaire Manicurist

by Sharmen Lane

Choices Change Your World

Choices are one of our most powerful tools. While this may be a tough chapter to read I implore you to read it and finish it no matter how strong your desire to resist. It is very difficult to accept that you are where you are because of your choices. No matter what, even when your choices were limited, you always had them. Sometimes you made the best choice between the options you had, but you had a choice nonetheless. Getting to a place where you are able to accept this reality can be incredibly empowering. In fact, this chapter alone can change your life because it can single handedly take you from now to wow. The most powerful and liberating thing to realize is that if you choose to believe that your choices got you where you are, and you are unhappy with that reality, you can also choose something different.

Why would one want to believe that they don’t have choices? Could it be because if we were to believe that we have a choice, then we would have to take responsibility for where we are? As long as we are where we are because of something someone else said or did, then we aren’t responsible. It isn’t our “fault”. We can’t do anything about where we are if it isn’t our fault we’re there right? Wrong.

Accepting that we are who, where and what we are, because of our own choices is empowering. Once you choose to believe that you have the power to change it. That’s a good thing. No, actually that’s a great thing.

Let me share with you an example. Imagine you are walking in a parking lot and someone comes up from behind, holds a gun to your head and tells you to hand over your wallet. Do you have a choice? Yes, you do. No matter how bad or awful the alternative is you always have a choice.

You can hand over your wallet or possibly get your head blown off. I’m not saying that your choices are always going to be good versus bad, therefore making it an easy choice. Regardless, you still have a choice even when all the options are terrible. In this example the choices were bad and worse. The smart or logical choice is to hand over your wallet. That decision will have its consequences but it was the best choice to make at the moment.

I have a client who had his own catering company and was often at the disposal of his clients. He would get calls to do last minute jobs. He had big goals that he was looking to achieve and they all required an investment of money. The interesting thing was that every time he got a call which interrupted his other plans he would say “I have to take this job, I don’t have a choice.” After hearing this several times I asked him why he always said “I don’t have a choice.” His answer was “I don’t. If I want to buy a house and accomplish my other goals I have to take the jobs that come to me.”

I pointed out that he could choose to not take a job. He could say no – if he chose to. Right now he simply had other priorities. Those goals took precedence over other things and there was nothing wrong with that. Sometimes he would take a job and forego his morning of sleeping in, going to the gym or spending time and money out with friends. The problem was, he felt guilty for putting those other things off to take a job so he could make the money he needed to accomplish his goals. He felt that if he said he didn’t have a choice it would justify him doing what he did. He could have chosen to turn down a job and been that much further from his goal.

The most valuable point here is that we all make choices. As long as we believe we don’t and instead feel that we are forced to do things against our will, then we are blaming everyone else for our circumstances. When we take a look at our lives and believe that our choices got us there – good, bad or indifferent – then we can make different choices to create the circumstances that we do want.

Here’s another example. I have a coaching client that I worked with for years who struggled with depression. There were many times when he would simply sit on the sofa and let the day pass by. Things were rough. His business was slow, he had no romantic life or intimate partner, he was having family issues, so in his mind life was dark and depressing. Things were not going the way he wanted them to in any way shape or form.

One day he said that it “wasn’t his fault”, he was going through a depressing time and he didn’t really have a choice in the matter. When he was depressed, he was depressed. I asked in return, “so you are saying you have no choice in this matter at all?” He said no, he did not. I asked him what he would do if I told him that the woman of his dreams was one block away in a restaurant on the corner. She was exactly what he had been looking for and I just met her, told her all about him and showed her his picture. And she said if he was half of what I described him to be, he is the man she has spent her life looking for. “What would you do?” I asked him. He said, “Are you serious? I would run, literally run down there right now!” “Ahhhh, interesting,” I said. “So you can get off the sofa when you want to? When there is a reason to get off the sofa you are capable of getting off the sofa. Quite frankly, you can ‘snap out of it’ when and if you have a reason to.” He instantly saw where I was going with this and ultimately agreed.

Here’s the thing: I have struggled with depression myself. I know what it is like to not want to get out of bed. I also know there is that one moment of truth when I have the choice to get out of bed and move on with my day and force myself to move, breathe or pull the covers over my head and pretend the world doesn’t exist. Nine times out of ten I would force myself out of bed and make myself get up and get out. Sometimes I made the choice to stay in bed and feel sorry for myself. Every time I did that, I knew I was making the choice to do so. By accepting the fact that I was choosing to be depressed and stay in bed, which only made matters worse, I would almost always force myself within an hour to get up and take some action to make my life better – as opposed to making matters worse by indulging in my personal pity party.

Another coaching client I had was in sales. Sometimes when things got rough and tough she would stay at home and mope and eat ice cream in bed without ever turning on a light. Yet somehow she always managed to make our coaching calls. One day I asked, “why are you choosing to be depressed and stay in this dark place?” She said to me, “You think I choose this? I don’t choose this, it just happens sometimes and I can’t do anything about it.” In the meantime I was emailing a friend of mine and asked her to send my client an email saying she needed her services and could she be in her office within the hour? My client got the email while we were on the phone and she said “Shar, I have a potential sale to make, I gotta go.” She was ready to dash out the door and make this sale happen. As much as I hated to crush her hopes, I said whoa whoa, slow down a minute. I then asked her for the name of the person who sent the email – to verify that it was from my friend. She confirmed it was and I said “Look at you. You were capable of getting yourself together, miraculously pulling out of your dark depression, when you wanted to or when you felt you needed to.

So, do you believe now that you have a choice as to whether or not you are going to stay in bed and have a pity party or get out of bed and make the life you want happen? She reluctantly agreed based on the example and demonstration that she did have a choice. The great news is that she hasn’t chosen to stay in bed a single day since. When she feels like crap and wants to pull the covers over her head, she forces herself to get up and do something that makes her feel good to break that cycle before it begins.

For months before that she would stay depressed go deeper and deeper in the hole until someone forced her to go to the doctor and get on medication. Now, by the power of her own choices, she doesn’t pull the covers over her head anymore.

Choices are around us all the time. Sometimes they’re simple and easy, other times they are akin to choosing between a rock and a hard place. A simple example is one that most people have experienced or will at some point – losing weight. Whether you gain a few extra pounds because of college finals, the holidays, or whatever, most people will struggle, or have struggled, with weight issues at some point in their lives.

When looking at the choices you have, you put yourself in a position to succeed at virtually anything. If you are dieting and are looking to lose a few extra pounds, the power of choice can really help you.

Over ten years ago I lost 30 pounds and have kept 20 of it off. I decided I was a little too thin so I gained 10 pounds back simply because I wanted to. In the initial stages of letting these unwanted pounds go I used my choice philosophy to determine what I was going to eat. I love sugar. If there was a jelly bean, cookie, cake or hunk of chocolate within my reach I was all over it. When I was looking to drop a few pounds I would look at the cookie and calories and ask myself if eating the 300 calorie cookie was worth the five seconds of pleasure it gave me. I would say to myself “Sharmen, do you want the momentary pleasure of eating this cookie or do you want to stay on track and be closer to your goal?” Any time I asked myself if I was going to choose my goal versus the item I wanted to eat I would always chose my goal.

I realized that I had a choice to eat what I wanted at that moment or I could choose to stay on track. There were also times when I would think, if I eat this cookie I will have to go to the gym and run on the treadmill for 30 minutes to burn it off and undo it. Is eating the cookie worth it? Never once did I choose to eat the junk when I looked at it from the perspective of making a choice. I truly believe that our choices are empowering. When we become aware that we have a choice in nearly everything it gives us amazing influence over our own life. We are no longer at the disposal of everything and everyone around us. Choosing to believe that you have a choice can be one of the most powerful and liberating things you will ever do.

It’s time to put you in the driver’s seat. Follow the next exercise to help empower you to make choices that change your life.

Tip #28- Accept the belief that you always have a choice

Exercise 7.1

1. Write down something to which you have recently said “I don’t have a choice”.

2. Now, evaluate it and determine what the other alternatives were, no matter how unattractive they may have seemed at the time.

3. Ask yourself, what other choices could I have made instead of the one you did?

4. Now that you are aware of the choices you had, would you have made a different choice?

5. In the future, look at your choices and make the best ones possible for each situation.

The big question becomes, why would one want to maintain the mindset that they don’t have a choice? What does that do for you? Well, it allows you to remain stuck is what it does. It holds you motionless and unable to do anything about the life you have and don’t like. This way you can say it’s not your fault, you can’t help it, and this is just the way it is. But this is not true. If you choose to believe that everything just happens to you and you have no say or effect on your own life then yes, you will be stuck. You will remain unhappy. However, if you change your perspective and choose to believe that you have a choice, and all day, every day you are surrounded by choices – then, and only then, will you improve your life.

Let’s say for a moment you accept the concept that you have a choice. The question then becomes how do you make better ones? Number one, know this: All choices have consequences. Before making a definitive choice about anything, write down all the possible consequences both good and bad. Most likely you will be comfortable with all the good consequences. That part is easy. Then look at the bad ones. Are the bad really that bad and are you willing to live with all of them? If the answer is yes then you can make your choice and take action on it. If the answer is no, which choice will you make?

Let’s go back to the dieting and cookie example. If you are dieting and want to reduce your size, weight, or body fat percentage you must make better choices about what you put into your mouth and body. By taking the approach of choices having consequences you will empower yourself to get the results you are looking for. When you are craving a big juicy burger, pizza, doughnut or whatever, I want you to stop and think. Think about the consequences of your choice. Is eating whatever you crave worth the consequences? Will you feel sad, angry, disgusted with yourself if you succumb to this momentary craving? Or, you can think of what you will have to do to undo the consequences of that choice. If you eat the pizza or give in to your vice, you will have to do some form of extra exercise just to get rid of the calories you consumed.

Is spending that much more time on the treadmill, or working out, worth it? On the other side of that coin, you will have to live with the fact that the pants you wore yesterday are not as comfortable today, or the numbers on the scale are higher than you want them to be, or maybe the tape measure grew. If none of these results are what you want or are going to be happy with then you need to step away from the chocolate soufflé.

When you look at choices from this perspective doesn’t it change how you feel about the things you used to do unconsciously? I know it does for me and most of the people I have worked with.

Here is another example. It’s crazy but true. I was married. I was married to a man significantly older than me. There were things I knew I didn’t like before we got married however, I told myself things would be different “after we were married.” It should be no surprise that things didn’t change after we got married. I loved this man more than life itself, so please do not take what you are about to read as a disparaging remark against him. I saw how he was and how he dealt with his ex-wife and I chose to believe that it would be different with me. In retrospect, I realize that I knew what I had and didn’t like it.

But, I was in love and wanted to believe that it would all work out. Except it didn’t. I chose to ignore what was right in front of me. I have no one else but me to blame for that. It’s not that he was a jerk or that he didn’t do what I wanted him to. He simply did what he did; I chose to marry him knowing that I didn’t really like those things.

Since that truly valuable and expensive experience, I have realized there are things we can do to make better choices. I should have asked myself before getting married, “Are you willing to live with every aspect of this man, good, bad and indifferent? If nothing about him, me or us were to change for the better and things stayed the same, would I be ok with that and be willing to live with all the things I love and all the things I don’t?” For me, the answer would have been no. There were things I was not willing to live with, hence my divorce. But let me tell you, I would have been much better off personally, professionally and financially, had I not gotten married. It was a valuable lesson to learn but one that could have been avoided had I known the right questions to ask.

A friend of mine had a boyfriend who found it entertaining and enjoyable to go to strip bars with his buddies. She personally didn’t care for that at all. Yet he would go and then they would argue about it later. Finally one day she finally said, “Honey, I love you and I’m not going to tell you what you can and can’t do, but here’s the thing – I don’t think it’s respectful of me or of our relationship for you to go to an establishment where you are looking and touching other naked women. I know there are some women that are okay with that and I’m sorry but I’m not one of them. I find it tasteless and disrespectful.

So, you do what you want to do, but I’m telling you that it is not something I will tolerate in my romantic relationship. You might find someone that is ok with it but I’m sorry to say I’m not, and I don’t want to be.”

For her, this was a deal breaker. She did not want to be with a person that went to strip clubs while they were in a relationship. What he did when he was single was not an issue, but while she was in a relationship with him she found it unacceptable. Due to our friendship, and knowing what I do for a living and my passion about choices, she asked me what I thought she should do. I said, “What you see is what you get. Are you willing to live with this person and all his habits for the rest of your life, or is it something you are willing to leave him over?” For her, she was willing to walk away.

In the end, the man believed it wasn’t that big of a deal and she should just get over it. He said he didn’t do it that often and he wasn’t going to give it up. Knowing this, she made her choice. She decided that she did not want a partner who frequented strip clubs, especially knowing that it bothered her. It simply was not something on which she was willing to compromise. A few months later she ended the relationship and found a new partner that didn’t have any deal breakers. She is now happily married.

On a completely different level, several years ago I was consulting for a mortgage company and they offered me a full time position after my three month contract had expired. The job was going to be a tough one. It was going to be ridiculously long hours with personality conflicts and control issues. Again, not knowing the questions to ask at the time, I let my ego get in the way. I liked the title. I liked the corner office. I liked the salary. But was I willing to accept everything that went along with the job, salary, title and corner office? Honestly, no I wasn’t. I darn near had to completely give up my life to do this job. I accepted the job and signed on the dotted line. A month later I resigned. What was I thinking? The good news was, I learned something that I could pass on to others to prevent them from making the same mistakes I had.

Tip #29- Eliminate the deal breakers

Exercise 7.2

1. Write down a decision you are facing now. Are you looking to get married? Are you looking at a new job? Are you thinking of having children?

2. Now ask yourself, and seriously contemplate it for a moment, are you willing to accept and do all the things that go along with what you want?

3. If the answer is yes, then great! Stay the course. If the answer is no, then figure out how you are going to end the current situation so you can have what you want and all that it entails.

So, how do we make better choices? The first step is to be aware that you have a choice in virtually everything. Accepting that concept will take you leaps and bounds toward making better choices. In addition, there are a few tools and strategies that you can implement which will help you on your journey toward making better choices and creating a happy, healthy and prosperous life.

The first is what I call the Ten Second Rule. Anytime you are faced with a decision, circumstance or situation, before you react, take a deep breath and count backwards from ten to one. This will give you ten seconds to change your instant physical or emotional reaction.

Though it may not change your initial response – you may still choose to explode or say or do something you might regret. This is truly a great tool to use when you are communicating with others or are having a confrontation. So often people get caught up in the heat of the moment and choose to go down a path they may later wish they hadn’t. Many times that is the result of a hasty reaction and not being aware of the things to do to help make better choices or decisions. As of now, that is no longer the case.

Think of a time when you reacted to something in a way that you later wished you could change. As great as apology’s are, isn’t not doing something you have to say you’re sorry for, a much better answer? It happens to the best of us. Something occurs and we instantly react. We fly off the handle, yell or scream, go through the roof, jump down someone’s throat or send a nasty email or text message. Then when we look at the situation again it’s not quite what we thought it was.

Taking a 10 second breath could have helped avoid the whole mess to begin with.

Tip #30- Think before you react

Exercise 7.3

1. Close your eyes and take a moment to remember a time when you were faced with a situation to which you instantly reacted to but later wished you had handled differently.

2. Feel what you felt at that moment. Be clear on how you reacted. What were you thinking, feeling, believing at the time? Think about your reaction and see this moment in your mind’s eye.

3. Imagine that you are in the same situation again. This time instead of instantly reacting, take a deep breath and slowly count from ten down to one.

Taking another look at that same situation, what would you have done differently had you used the ten second rule? Sometimes you will have done the same thing, but most of the time taking a moment to breathe and get present completely changes your perception and your reaction. Knowing this and applying it can quickly change the choices you make and how you make them.

Many years ago when I was working in Corporate America for a mortgage company I had a situation arise with one of my accounts. It was an active account I was working with and it was transferred to another sales person in my office. One day I was working with this client and literally the next day they were assigned to someone else. I was livid. I was the highest producing and most tenured sales person in this office, region and division and I could not believe I was being treated so disrespectfully.

I called my boss, his boss, and then his boss. If attention was what I wanted, that is exactly what I got…and not in a good way. My boss was not happy with the way I handled the situation. His boss was less so and his boss even less. I lost the respect of my superiors and some of my good reputation. Oh to be able to turn back time. I made my calls to apologize, but it did not undo the damage. I had some credibility to earn back which is always a lot easier said than done. That is when I created and implemented the Ten Second Rule for myself. I’m certain you have at least one situation similar to mine where you really wish you could go back in time and undo what you did.

I had many times after that when similar situations occurred but I can assure you I handled them differently, a lot differently, from that moment forward. The Ten Second Rule is a fast and simple way to take charge of your choices and make better ones.

A coaching client once had faced a situation in a relationship that could have really used the ten second rule. This man and his wife were having an argument. Something flew out of his mouth in the heat of the moment and the second it came out he regretted it. No apology could undo what he had just said, and he knew it. He was angry and was not thinking about the consequences of his actions, or in this case, his words. When he shared this story with me, he said he needed something to stop him from seeing red and saying whatever he felt in the heat of the moment. This is when I recommended he use the Ten Second Rule in any avenue of his life where he was feeling angry.

Most people’s lives are intertwined. Their behaviors are similar at work as they are at home and similar at home as they are out with friends. The Ten Second Rule can really impact and affect all areas of your life if you let it. I explained what the ten second rule was and how to use it. I said that from that moment forward anytime he found himself getting heated to pay attention and be aware. Before responding or reacting to anything to take a deep breath and consider what he is about to say. If he finds himself wanting to explode, stop instantly, breathe, count backward from ten to one and then respond.

He came back the next week for our coaching call and said he had several opportunities that week to put the Ten Second Rule into practice. He raved at how great it worked in his personal and professional life. In addition to that he said several people had commented on how relaxed he was and one even asked if he was on medication! He said all his relationships had improved noticeably that week and was anxious to continue practicing this new tool.

Note here that you can use this method in more than just your person to person communications. You can apply this to electronic communications as well. Surely you have received an email that made you want to throw your computer out the window or your BlackBerry up against the wall. I know that has happened to me more than once.

For most, the first instinct is to click that reply button and blast the idiot who ticked you off. On the same note, I’m certain many, if not most, have hit the send button and instantly felt a sense of remorse.

The Ten Second Rule can be very helpful here. If you are dealing with someone via text message or email I highly suggest taking that deep breath, count back from ten to one and then start to type.

Another way you can do this is to instantly type what you want but DO NOT send it. Instead, save it, close it, take a breath, count back from ten, and reopen it. Now reread the initial email. Is it really what you want to say and how you want to say it? Reread the email you typed, but read it out loud this time. Does the message express, both in verse and tone, what you want it to? If the answer is yes then send it.

However, 99 percent of the time you will delete it and rewrite. This leads us to our final tool in choices change our world. This is one of my personal favorites and I believe it to be one of the most powerful. I call it the Videotape Test. If you find yourself making poor choice after poor choice and you cannot see your way out of it, use the Videotape Test. This is a wonderful way to see yourself and your actions from an outsider’s point of view. Surely you have done things in your life that you are not proud of. When you see pictures or hear stories the next day you think, “ugh what was I thinking???” Sometimes you know exactly what you are doing when you are doing it and it is not enough to stop you. Just the mere planting of this seed in your mind will instantly help you make better choices from this point forward.

How many times have you said, “Why did I do that? I know better than that!” However that wasn’t enough to stop you from doing it. The Videotape Test gives you the opportunity to see the problem, correct it, and walk away before there are any consequences to pay. That truly is the beauty of this strategy. If you use it you will have far fewer regrets in your life. Right now I want you to think of who means the world to you. Someone who, if you disappointed them, you would be devastated. This could be anyone. Mother, father, coach, teacher, boss, or mentor. I want you to imagine the look in this person’s eye when you are sitting in front of them when they hear about something you did. Imagine what you would feel knowing this person is disappointed in you, has lost faith, trust and all respect for you. Who is this person?

Now comes the tough part. I want you to imagine the last time you did something that you were not very proud of. Remember what it was and how it felt the morning after, so to speak.

Did you feel a sense of regret, remorse, etc? Do you wish you could turn back time, and undo what you did? Now that you have that example in your head I want you to imagine the moments leading up to this event. This time, however, I want you to imagine that there is a hidden video camera recording your every move. Everything you say, every move you make is on camera.

A quick side note: don’t you think if everything we did was caught on tape we would all behave differently? For instance, a few years ago I lived in a building on the 11th floor and I would take the elevator up to my apartment. There were times that I would adjust my pantyhose because I was in there alone and no one was watching. Now, mind you, I wasn’t pulling my skirt up over my ears or anything but I would make little private adjustments over a few seconds while I was waiting to get to my floor or going down to the lobby. One day I was in the lobby waiting for a friend and the doorman said “are you waiting for Sally?” and I said yes. He said that she was in the elevator on her way down. I cocked my head and said “how do you know she’s in the elevator?” I still remember his answer to this day: “There’s a camera in the elevator. I can see her.” All of the sudden I realized this man and others had seen me adjusting my undergarments more than once. I was so ridiculously embarrassed. Had I known I was being watched I would have never adjusted my pantyhose in the elevator!

Something similar happened to another client of mine. Actually, it was her husband. He was at a company event one night where everyone, including him, was drinking and carrying on. Later that year at the annual holiday party a video was shown with clips of the many events throughout the year. All the employees and their spouses were sitting at their tables watching with laughter. However, at one point my client saw a clip of her husband who was in the background of what was being taped. He was dancing with another woman, not inappropriately, well, at least not until his hand was on her derriere. My client was sitting in the audience watching and saw this. Remember, this was in the background and it wasn’t really the focus of the clip, but the wife still saw it nonetheless. As you can imagine, she was not particularly happy about it either. When she mentioned it to her husband on the way home and he acknowledged that he saw it too he instantly felt guilty.

The funny thing here is that he never mentioned this little incident and didn’t really think anything about it… until he saw it on tape. He said he would have never done that had he known he was “being watched.” And that is the Videotape Test.

I want you to imagine that you are being taped all day, every day. All your actions are being recorded. Would you adjust your pantyhose in the elevator if you were being watched? Would you eat that cookie if you knew your trainer was going to see you? Would you flirt with that man or woman at the grocery story even though you are married? Would you run that red light or stop sign if you knew a video could prove you broke the law? Most people are not going to keep this in the forefront of their minds all the time. Most don’t need to. However, you should apply this technique anytime you think even for a second that you are stepping out of integrity. If the thought “should I be doing this?” crosses your mind then you need to implement the video tape test.

To give you a start to finish example of this, my Grandmother is my be all and end all. If she were disappointed in me my heart would break. Just the thought of her not being pleased with one of my actions is enough to bring me to tears. One day I was out with some friends and someone convinced me to jump up on the bar and dance with a couple of my colleagues. I jumped up on the bar and instantly thought, “Is this something I would be proud of if I saw it on tape, much less if my grandmother saw it?” I knew I didn’t want to see it, much less want my Grammie to see it. I got down off that bar just as quickly as I got up. Before I started using the videotape test I think I would have gone along with the crowd and been the crazy party girl that fit in. That, however, was not who I was, nor how I wanted to be seen.

This tool can also be tremendously beneficial in your marriage or intimate relationships. I think a lot of times people behave in ways that are inappropriate, not scandalous necessarily, just a little inappropriate. And they do this many times because they don’t think they will get caught. I’m sure you have heard the phrase, “Integrity is what you do when no one else is watching.” I think it is human nature to take others opinions or judgments more harshly than our own. If that is the case with you then the Videotape Test is right up your alley, giving you that little edge to stay within the lines of integrity and make better choices. If you are so much as thinking about doing something that might be perceived by some as inappropriate and you are getting sucked in by your peers, stop and think about your actions being caught on tape and then being shown to your partner, significant other or spouse. Would that person be okay with what they saw on that tape? If the answer is no then you need to make the choice that is in line with your integrity.

The Videotape Test is an opportunity for you to quickly get a different perspective on your actions or behaviors to help make better choices.

There you have it. Several different tools and strategies to make better choices. If you make better choices you will create a better life. Ultimately everything comes down to the choices you make. How you respond or react to a situation is a choice. How you handle stress, anger, and depression are all choices. Your viewpoints on things that have happened in the past are choices. How you go about making your choices can change your world. If you apply this in every avenue of your life you can change your life… you can change the lives of those around you. Especially, if you share this information with your children.

You have been given a new perspective on choices. You should now know that your life is a result of all the many choices you have made, good, bad and indifferent. You have been given tools to help you make better choices. You have new information such as choices and consequences, the Ten Second Rule, and the Videotape Test. I’ve given you this great information on how to help you make better choices, how you CHOOSE to use it is all up to you.


1. Your choices got you where you are

2. You always have a choice whether it be good, bad or indifferent

3. Every choice has a consequence

4. The Ten Second Rule

5. Videotape Test

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