Self-Love Tip: Make A Contribution to the Universe
by Cassendre Xavier
One of the best ways to improve your outlook on life and automatically and significantly increase your self-love is to shift the focus from yourself and your own pain or so-called inadequacies to helping make someone else's life better.
I've read countless stories of people who were despondent, but once they made up their minds to help others, and did that, not only did they feel much better, but their life circumstances also improved significantly!
From Joel Osteen's book "Your Best Life Now" he recounts talking with a friend who was near suicide. The guy had been left by his wife, he was jobless, and almost homeless. Joel advised him to help someone, then he went out and started helping drug addicts recover. Very soon he was so grateful to be alive, because he was needed. Someone depended on him and made him feel very important, which he was, even before that.
Soon he had a job, and the overwhelming feeling of joy from helping recovering drug addicts never left him.
Another story is from the movie "You Can Heal Your Life" in which Gay Hendricks recounts a story in which one of his clients called him, very sad and depressed. Gay asked him if there was something he could do to "contribute" to the universe. He answered there was an elderly woman who lived nearby. Her doorway was full of old papers and trash. Gay advised him to put the phone down and go clean it up, then come back to the phone. He did that and there was a dramatic shift when he returned to the conversation. He felt elated!
So, if you're feeling down today, or are working on improving how you feel about yourself right now, consider how you can be of service or contribute to the universe. It doesn't have to be something big or elaborate. And it doesn't even have to be for another person. You can be significantly helpful to either the animal, plant, or mineral kingdoms, too!
For years I've tried to contribute as a volunteer to various causes, but none of them ever worked out. I lamented my lack of service to humanity, but now I don't see it that way. Now I see my efforts everywhere. My taking the time to write and send this note, even as my tummy growls because I was on my way to the kitchen to make a late dinner :-), I tell myself, I am contributing to humynkind. I am making a difference. I am being of service to the collective call for comfort and the cause of self-actualization.
Do what you can according to who you are as a special humyn being with your own unique interests, talents, and life experience. You have your own schedule, your own resources, your own abilities and things you want and can do to make the world a better place.
Making your own unique contribution will make you feel amazing about life, and about your own unique wonderful self!
(c) 2010 by Cassendre Xavier. All rights reserved.
About the author: Cassendre Xavier is a multi-media artist and founder/director of Philadelphia's annual Black Women's Arts Festival (Est 2003). You can visit her at http://cassendrexavier.com