Big Love: Secrets From Soulmates Arielle & Brian

Dear Arielle & Brian,

I have been working on different issues for manifesting my soulmate. With each person I come in touch with, I become more clear as to what I am desiring from the core of my heart, but still, I am unable to manifest the kind of person I am looking for.
I have joined two online dating services and have gone on several dates but it doesn’t seem to be working. It seems that ultimately the men I meet online are not emotionally available. Am I expecting too much??? Will I ever find anyone with whom I can connect profoundly surrender too? I have taken a break from searching, but these questions haunt me. Can you please guide me with your insight?

Love,
Neely

Dear Neely,

Our suggestion would be that you need to focus more on “magnetizing” your soulmate to you rather than actively “looking out there” for that person. Words and feelings are important – “searching” can sometimes come from a place of desperation instead of the natural flow of love. When we are meeting unavailable men it is a reflection of our own unavailability. We would suggest that you consider doing some deeper work to see where your heart is possibly still wounded or defended or untrusting.
There are many good forms of therapy and release techniques in the world. Take it as a good sign that you know how to manifest (men are showing up) but that there is still more work to do on your end. Remember, that ultimately there is nothing for you to do but there is something and someone for you to BECOME. Become the loving, giving magnet for love that you are at your core. Discover true happiness within you and the life you have right now. Give love to those already in your life.
Practice surrendering to the Universe to the Goddess, and to all THAT IS.
When the time is right and you are ripe, love will find you.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle and Brian

Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle, a DVD club dedicated to providing movies about love and compassion. She is the author of seven books including the HOT CHOCOLATE FOR THE MYSTICAL SOUL series and her newest book THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a life-long interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion. They live in La Jolla, CA www.soulmatesecret.com

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