Big Love - Secrets From Soulmates Arielle and Brian

Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old finding Big Love is always possible. Email your questions to: soulmatesecret@yahoo.com

Hi Arielle & Brian,

Thanks for your great book!
In my search for my soulmate I find myself often thinking thoughts like, "Maybe I will never find my soulmate in this life" and/or "Maybe I'm being too picky and I just need to settle for one of the many perfectly nice women I know." Somehow I know that these sorts of negative, defeated thoughts don't make finding "The One" any easier, and perhaps are the very thing that keep me from finding her. But yet they keep appearing frequently. When it happens, a part of me that recognizes that they’re just thoughts. But, I do give them emotional energy. As much as I try not to, I find myself thinking that they might be true. Sometimes I think that if I could just surgically remove my "thinker" I'd find her right away!

Any advice? Know any good thought surgeons?!?!

Brian

Dear Brian,

Great question from a guy with a great name!!! We really appreciate your honesty and the thoughtfulness in your question. Please know that most of us at one time or the other could have used a good “thought” surgeon when it comes to dating or finding a soulmate—you’re not alone!!. And it’s because WE ARE often in our “heads” instead of our “hearts” when it comes to romance. Just look at how many times you mentioned “thinking” or “thoughts” in your question. Try dropping into your heart and trusting your intuition and that inner navigational guide more often. (we suggest doing the “feelingizations” you can find at www.soulmatesecret.com under Free Stuff)

You might find that it changes the prism you are looking through as well as the “feelings” you are having for that person or situation. Those negative self-defeating thoughts might slowly evaporate, you might find yourself less “picky” and the “emotional energy” you describe might feel completely different when you operate from your heart. There is a beautiful song by Carly Simon that really captures our conversation—some of the lyrics goes like this: “What if the stars you’ve been reaching so high for are shining in her eyes.” Carly also goes on to sing that maybe we all just need to “adjust the tuning, try a new translation, take a new picture—just because you don’t see shooting stars doesn’t mean its not perfect!!!”

Brian—we don’t know if there is any better advice than that my friend!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle and Brian

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Dear Arielle & Brian,

What do you do if you find more comfort in receiving and giving love to a pet than you do in another human? I often wonder how can I love another human like I love my cats?

Sincerely,

Christy

Dear Christy,

We totally understand how wonderful cat love is! When you are in relationship with a soulmate (whether it’s a romantic relationship, a best friend, a child or pet) one of the hallmarks of this relationship is the experience of “being at home” when you look into each other’s eyes. The really good news is that you can have many soulmate relationships in a lifetime.

When you magnetize the partner of your dreams you will discover that you can deeply love and appreciate both your romantic partner/soulmate and your cat. When you write your soulmate wish list, be sure to add that you desire someone who also a cat-lover.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle and Brian

Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle, a DVD club dedicated to providing movies about love and compassion. She is the author of seven books including the HOT CHOCOLATE FOR THE MYSTICAL SOUL series and her newest book THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a life-long interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion. They live in La Jolla, CA www.soulmatesecret.com

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