Healing the Wounds - 7 Steps to Clarity & Expansion

The art of expansion is about allowing our wholeness to reveal itself to us. We must heal our wounds to experience that sense of wholeness.

I have witnessed in my clients’ lives, and my own life how dedication to higher consciousness can be a mask for pain. We “believe” we are living with right thinking and perspective when we are happy and when things are going well. We forget that the natural course of expansion includes contraction. When we expand, we allow all parts of our self to emerge. Situations arise to shine a light on that which is not yet healed or evolved. If we judge our experiences as good and bad we will question life’s process. Or, better said, our ego mind will do its best to re-take control of our thought patterns.

How do we recognize when this has happened? We begin to feel powerless. We return to worry. Or, we get mad. Then we give up. We go unconscious. We want to ignore our wounds when they show themselves. They’re not pretty. They are not higher consciousness. We can’t waste time dwelling on the past. We lived it, why do we have to look back at it? The reason is because without giving attention to past injuries we single handedly empower the past, or limited patterns, to remain a driving force in our lives.

The process of enlightenment requires we embrace all parts of our experiences and recognize the value they offer. All so we may move toward an awareness of our innate wholeness. That means moving away from judgment about good or bad experiences. I certainly prefer happy to sad. That is a human reality. The spiritual reality is that all experiences are equal.

The process of expansion is more than just getting stuff. It’s more than having our relationships work out. It’s more than connecting with life purpose. It’s about embracing the wholeness of who we are. It’s about allowing the awareness of wholeness into our consciousness. Ego tells us we are not whole. We are deficient. That is the opposite of who we are. We experience limitations in the physical body because it is the best way to learn where limitations exist in our consciousness.

If we are not healed, our contributions, our interactions, and our outcomes are filtered through our wounds. Those wounds will continue to be presented to us until we resolve them. This is an act of higher consciousness meeting our needs at the deepest levels.

How do we recognize our wounds? Most often we recognize them through our teachers. Who are our teachers? Our spouses who infuriate us, or don’t meet our needs. Our boss or co-worker who demeans or controls us in various ways. Our children who do the opposite of what we would like them to do. Our friends who disappoint us. These people and situations represent our opportunities for learning…your teachers.

When you find yourself feeling angry, worried, or certain you would be just fine “if only” someone or something outside of yourself would shift…that is your teacher. That is what you need to look at it inside of yourself. If we did not have a wound, we would not be reacting to the external stimulus. Nothing outside of us will ever cause us to feel complete, or incomplete. If your center is unstable, you will react from a place that says “it’s your fault” and “if only….”

Follow this general outline to heal your wounds:

1. Find your neutrality. Remember all experiences are equal in higher consciousness. Source is meeting your needs, based upon your contributions to energy. You have told Source energetically you want to heal something, and an opportunity has presented itself to you.

2. Love yourself for your humanness. Take time to acknowledge your injury and to source its origins. Don’t rush to move away from the uncomfortable feelings. Allow your insight about this wound to rise to your awareness. Give yourself space to feel.

3. Reach for gratitude. Be appreciative for the awareness that you bring into your space. Give thanks for the opportunity to evolve. Feed your sense of powerlessness love and acceptance, either through ritual or some other means of self support.

4. Be kind to yourself. Don’t judge yourself for being wounded. This is a process, not a race. In each moment, we can only do as much as we can do. That is enough.

5. Do not make the mistake of forgetting where life comes from…the origin of your wealth. The origin of your health. The origin of all the love in your life. Regardless of the vehicle, your needs are being met through your relationship with Source.

6. Acknowledge the one-ness of consciousness. There is no us, no them, only the one. Allow the feeling of connection to life to bathe over you. You are one wave in the ocean of life. We are all connected. Everything we do affects everything else. See the God consciousness in yourself. Recognize that as you heal yourself, you heal the whole.

7. Take time to care for yourself mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. This is how you stay conscious. It is how you cope with the awareness of your wounds when you see them. It is one big piece in how you gain awareness of your innate wholeness. Finally, ask for insight on how to stay connected to Source. Guess what… you will receive it.

Best known as a radio psychic, Phyllis King, The Common Sense Psychic, gives down to earth and practical spiritual dialogue in her coast to coast radio show. She is the author of A Psychic Perspective, the co-author of Collective Wisdom with Donald Gerard and the co-author of Bouncing Back with Dr. Wayne Dyer. Her lastest book Impressions, Simple Truths for Practicing Abundant Thinking is available now. Contact Phyllis at www.phyllisking.net.