Big Love: Secrets From Soulmates Arielle & brian

Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old finding Big Love is always possible. Email your questions to: soulmatesecret@yahoo.com

Dear Arielle & Brian:

I left my marriage of 17 years almost five years ago. Something I never thought I'd do, but I felt stifled and couldn't grow in the direction that mysoul was calling me to. It was a very difficult breakup that estranged me from my children for a quite a while. With a lot of patience and love we reconnected again, but it was an extremely challenging time for all of us. Needless to say, a lot of heartbreak.

I hadn't been dated in years and I was yearning for love and companionship but living in a very rural area, I felt pretty hopeless about meeting somebody special. Last year, out of the blue, I met this beautiful man in our tiny village. The sparks were flying and I looked into his eyes and felt like I was home. We had a wonderfully magical and intense romance that lasted for a month (he was in our village for work) then he went back home, hundreds of miles away. He's a single Dad of two little kids and I have children here, so neither one of us is in a position to move to be close to the other. Ultimately, he decided that he did not want to be tied up in a long distance romance. I was crushed. We still talk on the phone and I find myself hanging on to hope that things will change yet I feel stuck in on an emotional rollercoaster.

I am outgoing and attractive and I have an incredibly rich social life, yet I have this yearning and pining for this man that I spent this incredible time with. I believed the stars were aligned when we met and everything felt so right, and now there is this rude awakening. I feel something precious is slipping away...
I'm stuck and I wanted to share this with you, as I really feel I need some guidance here.

Hopefully,

Louisa

Dear Louisa,

First things first, we really have compassion for you that this romantic courtship hasn’t worked out. But a very thoughtful man, made a very hard decision that involved many people and extremely difficult challenges. You now have to make that same hard decision. You have to choose to let him go. This doesn’t mean that you have to stop loving him but it does mean that you have to begin managing your thoughts and emotions accordingly. Especially when you are thinking about him or obsessing about “what might have been.” Given the extremely difficult circumstances for possibility a healthy, viable relationship, it seems as though the purpose of your coming together was to heal you and show you that love is possible again. Accordingly, we would suggest that you create a ritual for yourself. A way to celebrate and show gratitude for all the gifts you received from being with this man. And then give yourself as much time as you need to detach completely from him before you begin to think about manifesting new love. This also means giving up the phone relationship for a time until you no longer have romantic feelings for him. When you are ready dive back into The Soulmate Secret and do the exercises you feel will open your heart to the possibility of a meaningful relationship again.

Please remember (and this is important) that just because you will not be with this man doesn’t mean you can’t find a small place in your heart where he will live with fondness and deep gratitude. After all, this romance re-ignited the flame for the possibility of Big Love and you now know that Big Love can and will flourish in the right circumstances at the opportune time.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle & Brian

Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle, a DVD club dedicated to providing movies about love and compassion. She is the author of seven books including the HOT CHOCOLATE FOR THE MYSTICAL SOUL series and her newest book THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a life-long interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion. They live in La Jolla, CA www.soulmatesecret.com

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