Big Love: Secrets From Soulmates Arielle & Brian

Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old finding Big Love is always possible. Email your questions to: soulmatesecret@yahoo.com

Dear Arielle and Brian,

I recently met a wonderful man who seems to understand me. We like the same things but he walked away because his sister is sick and he will be taking care of her. I am very sad about this and told him so. I asked that he keep in touch and he said he would like to do that.
I have been divorced for ten years and have not met anyone like him. Will it be a good idea for me to hold on to him?

Chelsea

Dear Chelsea,

He sounds like a very loving and caring man and it’s understandable and honorable that he would prioritize his sister’s care above his own personal relationships at this moment. He seems to have all of the qualities that are important for a meaningful relationship. Loyalty for one, you enjoy the same things, and you said he understands YOU! What a fabulous foundation. He also said he would love to keep in touch with you. So, maybe a friendship is where you start. Maybe you can even find ways yourself to lend this “wonderful” man some support during this challenging time in his life. So although you haven’t met anybody like him in ten years don’t worry about “holding” onto him but think about nurturing the friendship and see where that takes the two of you.

Dear Arielle and Brian,

Last Summer I finished reading and doing all of the exercises in The Soulmate Secret. I felt great, expecting and believing my soulmate was already there and somehow waiting for me, and that our hearts were already connected.
Soon after I met two men that I believed had the potential to be the soulmate I was manifesting. Both ended up being very interested in me but didn’t have any time to spend with me because they were both workaholics. I am wondering if I should change my soulmate wish list as one of the items I wrote was stating that my soulmate will be a “hard worker.” I feel more lonely than ever and I am wondering what I am doing wrong?
I need your advice urgently,

Dani

Dear Dani,

First, lets look at EVERYTHING you are doing right: You put in your time, energy intention and attention and you manifested not one but TWO men that you felt were potential soulmates. That is absolutely fantastic.

You can feel really proud of yourself for this accomplishment. Now, here’s what might need a little adjustment. On your soulmate wish list you asked for a hard-worker and you ended up with workaholics.

On a certain level, you got what you asked for. Lets examine what you meant by “hard-worker.” Are you really asking for someone who has a career that he loves, earns a good living and will be able to financially contribute to your life together? Or, are you asking for someone who has a high-profile position, that earns big money and will allow you to stay home and not work? Or, by hard-worker do you mean something else all together? Whatever it is you really are asking for, you just need to be more specific. And, most importantly, you need to add to your wish list that your soulmate will have the time, energy and interest to spend lots of quality time with you. So please make sure you spend some more time reflecting on not only the traits and qualities you wish your soulmate to possess but also write a detailed description of what your lifestyle looks like together.

Once you gain more clarity on the qualities you really seek, you will be that much closer to having your dream come true. Also, remember to “live as if” your soulmate is already in your life and to cultivate as much self-love and self-care as you can during this process of meeting your soulmate. You might find that eventually you won’t feel you are doing anything “wrong” and what can be a fun and joyful process won’t be a “lonely” journey or even an urgent one, but a loving, nurturing and healthy experience that ultimately ends up with the desired outcome – BIG LOVE and a wonderful partner for life.

Many blessings,

Arielle & Brian

Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle, a DVD club dedicated to providing movies about love and compassion. She is the author of seven books including the HOT CHOCOLATE FOR THE MYSTICAL SOUL series and her newest book THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a life-long interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion. They live in La Jolla, CA www.soulmatesecret.com and www.soulmatekit.com

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