Divine Wisdom from Michele Livingston

Dear Michele, I have a question that I hope you can answer. My grandmother is 86 and in a nursing home. She has lingered there for a long time, sometimes refusing to eat. She seems to be restless and is wasting away. I can't stand to see her suffer and would like to know if there is a way to ease her pain. Do you have any prayers or anything that I can use to help her pass over or even be at peace? Thank you, Brenda V.

Every human soul chooses to enter the earth plane to love unconditionally and learn certain soul lessons. The soul chooses its parents, date of birth and time to exit or pass on. When the soul is in the body we have certain weaknesses and trials we must work through. That is the human condition. A person knows “soul wise” when it is their time to go, but may consciously cling to the human body for a number of reasons. I also have friends who are hospice workers and they explain that sometimes a person needs verbal “permission to let go.” For example, my stepfather lingered with cancer and his soul would not release from his body because he was concerned about who would receive his bookstore, along with his collection of antiques and collectibles. Although he was not materialistic, this accumulation represented to him a sentimental lifetime of collecting. Likewise, my stepsister lay in pain for months with breast cancer, claiming she did not want to leave her beautiful champion show dogs and kennels behind, even though she was so tired and longed to go. My dear mother also lingered, weighing only 60 pounds and admitted she wanted to see me married and secure before she made transition.

In all of these cases the person longed for heaven, but felt a physical need or compulsion to cling to their body. Sometimes a person will cling simply out of fear of the unknown or of what may lie ahead for them. There is a technique I used for all of my loved ones to facilitate and expedite their peaceful passing. If you need to be a facilitator for your loved ones to cross over, then I suggest the following exercise:

In your mind's eye, visualize the person you want to help to cross over, and take their hand. Visualize a long tunnel in front of you. Start to walk slowly down the tunnel with them and you will see a pinpoint of light at the end. As you walk, call them by name and tell them that they had a good life and it's OK to let go, that they're going to a better place, filled with love and light. Tell them they will reunite with their pets, friends and loved ones on the other side, and that they will be greeted by angels and be safe in God’s keeping. “Go in peace, go towards the light,” softly tell them. Ahead you will see the pinpoint of light become larger and brighter. You may even see departed loved ones yourself, waiting there. When you have reached the end of the tunnel, let go of their hand and float backwards. You will see your loved one's silhouette in the light growing smaller and smaller. Then return your soul to your own body.

Do this technique for a day or two. Your loved one’s soul usually releases within 24 to 48 hours. This is a powerful service of love you are providing for them and it should only be directed at those who are lingering and wish to depart.

My mother was helped in this way by a hospice worker in the nursing home who physically tried to coax my mother to “let go.” At the time, my mother had a very nosey roommate whose name was “Peep.” The curtain was drawn between them and the hospice worker stayed with my mother for about an hour, gently talking to her out loud. “You've lived a good life and it's time to release, let go, go in peace, go to the light,” she urged. The next day, the nurse entered my mother's room fully expecting that she might no longer be with us. However, my mother was still alive, alert and sitting up in bed; but when the privacy curtain was drawn back, my mother's roommate, Peep, had passed on! Apparently Peep was ease-dropping and took the advice to let go and go to the light! This is why I feel that it’s better to help the person in your mind's eye or when you know they are physically alone. I continued the technique with my mother and she passed peacefully the next morning.

So Brenda, I hope this sheds some light on how you can help your grandmother if it is her time to go. Blessings, Michele

Dear Michele, is there any way, spiritually, that I can attract a baby into our lives? I’m really at my wits end! My husband and I are perfectly capable of having a baby, but we can’t conceive. I’ve tried meditation and relalaxation techniques, but I’m growing more and more frustrated with each day (we’ve been trying for 5 years!). My next step is fertility drugs. Please help! Patricia C.

Dear Patricia, I understand your frustration in waiting to conceive. Patience is needed, but also the “timing” must be right for a soul to incarnate. Some women do not need children to fulfill their destiny on the earth plane, but I feel you will definitely have a child, one way or another.

First, if the woman or couple is stressed or anxious, conception is unlikely to take place. Stress blocks the flow of procreation. Vacations together are one solution and some conceptions take place near water, because it is a healing and feminine element. You can also invite a special soul to come to you and consciously ask it to be your child. Before you go to sleep at night, say the following prayer:

Dear Lord, please send a special soul to me from my soul group in heaven. I pray for a precious child to be conceived, to be born and to be healthy. I invite that soul into our lives now to fulfill the soul agreements that we have previously made. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer.

If it is God's perfect will, and the timing is right for the incoming soul, there will soon be a pregnancy. Also, please consider adoption.

If a soul on the other side who really wants to be born knows you will have difficulty conceiving and carrying a baby, then it will choose a surrogate route to get back to you! There are no accidents with adoption and so many precious babies need good homes. Those couples who adopt many times conceive their own child shortly after, because the stress and pressure of getting pregnant is alleviated. So Patricia, I wish you all the best.

Michele Livingston is a spiritual clairvoyant and author who uses her special gifts to guide and counsel those seeking answers about their loved ones (both living and deceased), about their health and even about past lives.

Readers can prearrange one-on-one phone sessions or in person readings with Michele. She also presents "Messages from Beyond" seminars throughout the northeastern USA, and her NEW book, Messages from Beyond: a Spiritual Guidebook, is available on-line at her website or by calling 717-737-3888.

In this column she answers questions from selected readers about angels, loved ones who have passed, spirit guides and many other interesting subjects. Questions may be sent to Michele at Divine Inspirations, P.O. Box 383, Camp Hill, PA 17001 or e-mailed to Michele@MicheleLivingston.com. To learn more about Michele and her work, please visit her web site at www.MicheleLivingston.com.