The Bliss Mistress Guide: Buck Nekkid

A few months ago, I had a session with a woman whose intuitive abilities were blow-me-out-of –the-water on target. A marker of whether a psychic is genuine is that he or she can tell me things about myself that are not coming from being familiar with me and they would have no other way of knowing. This woman was tapping into the Universal Information Bank, using language that I would as well, to describe certain life circumstances. One thing she was abundantly clear about was regarding my book and the ways in which its publishing would alter my life for good. She told me “This book is your truth. You will never again be able to live anything that isn’t your truth.” YIKES! What a challenge her words threw down in front of me.

One of the things I have been keenly aware of lately, is the need to become transparent, even more genuine, revealing more of who I am, peeling off the layers of illusion. Quite a vulnerable position to be in and yet, I have no other choice, lest I consider myself hypocritical, since I encourage those around me to be that open as well. Walkin’ the talk ain’t always a cakewalk.

An opportunity to do just that came earlier this month when I found myself (and almost lost myself) in a situation in which I had placed people on a pedestal, thought of them as a barometer of whether or not I was acceptable to sit at the ‘cool kids’ table’ (you know, in Junior High, that imaginary place where you think the students who seem to have it all together, congregate) and pouted about it when I wasn’t invited to do so. I was able to process through it, and communicate my feelings with the parties involved. What emerged from it, were comments from them that indicated that they were glad I had the opportunity to heal around this issue and one said : “I’m so glad you made this situation up in your head.”, so I could move beyond it, and further added that if there really was some sort of ‘club’, she certainly didn’t belong to it. I can laugh about it as I peer back over my shoulder, from a few weeks in the future. It took an attitude adjustment, a shift in perception, an alteration of my beliefs. What it came down to, was that I invited this set of circumstances, these players and this environment so I could let go, once and for all. As I spoke about the experience, a few weeks later, during a presentation, I could feel lighter, like my heart was lifting, letting go of expectations for how I thought I oughta be, instead of how I am, fully human with all my glories and ‘guckiness’, my strengths and struggles. By being willing to be ‘buck nekkid’ before people whose opinion I value, I gain a greater sense of self-respect and in turn; their respect as well. Afterward, someone told me that they felt closer as result of my risk to put aside the façade and the need for things to look a certain way. When you have nothing to hide, it does become easier.

A quote from one of my favorite authors, Madeleine L’Engle “To be alive is to be vulnerable.”

Edie Weinstein (a.k.a. Bliss Mistress) is a journalist, motivational speaker, social worker, interfaith minister and joy coach, as well as the author of The Bliss Mistress Guide To Transforming the Ordinary Into the Extraordinary. www.liveinjoy.org