If you haven’t noticed lately, it seems that much harder everyday to stay in a more positive place, emotionally. So, how did this happen, and what can we do to turn our world over to the sunnier side we once enjoyed? It may take a little effort to get the hang of it, but it’s just like riding a bike. Once you know how to do this, you’ll never forget, even though it might take a little while before your front tire stops wobbling!

Everything that we take in or express though our senses effects how we feel in a positive or negative way. The conversations we have, the people we surround ourselves with, the hobbies we engage in and what we watch and listen to, all have a profound effect on how we view life. While we might know this in theory, applying it to our lives is another matter. So, what can we do about it? The good news is that there are only two choices for us to choose from, something positive or negative.

For example, when you first wake up, you might have some negative thoughts that have lingered on from the previous day. Rather than just trying to change them with self-talk, I have another step to add to the mix. Since every negative encounter you’ve had with another person leaves a deep impression or memory, you can now replace it with a good one. Our emotions can turn on a dime, so when we positively steer ourselves in our moments with others, our moods also follow the same path.

To shift gears before we start the day, we can get excited by knowing that our moments are only going to be filled by what we put into them. The sincere smile you bring or that positive comment settles into our body and it works to make us both feel better – immediately. When we return that energy we aren’t giving it back. We are multiplying it, between us. 

Since the beginning of time, we have been under the assumption that we have to compete for positive energy, like it comes in limited quantities. When we actually create it with whatever we say and do, as long as it is leaning ever so slightly in a positive direction. With more of these moments in lives, the law of attraction begins and this energy only adds to what we have on the inside, and how we feel about ourselves and the world around us. Everything on a biological level is connected in the world, so that we can assist each other in achieving this happier end. In fact, without the “bonding” process, physical matter couldn’t stay together and it works the same way for us, too.

To me, the best part about this idea is that we get to stay true to who we already are. To create a positive moment, all that we need to do is be a bit more positive about anything, for starters. We can always get more specific about something in particular, as we go along. Our attitudes mean everything because our actions almost always follow that energy’s quality. When we feel good, we are able to relax and focus our efforts easily on the tasks we would like to complete. Being able to see things much clearer from here, allows us to get a handle on the importance of what we are doing and it shows us the fruits of our labor in real-time, as well.

If for any reason during our moments together something goes wrong, there’s no need to worry about it! Apologize, take a breath, refocus and hop right back onto the path you were just on. That’s all there is to it. If you need a little more information on what you would like to do, rather than seeing this as a hassle, you’re simply gathering wisdom so you can put the pieces together, successfully. Even our negative moments can be viewed as a process that allows us to gather more of what we need to make something work out. From this perspective, discovering something new becomes an adventure, rather than a block that keeps our happiness at bay.

To make this impact even greater, choose to spend more time together on things you have in common or that are important to each one of you, even if it’s only to discuss some exciting plans for the future. That way, you’ll lift your spirits and get closer to the goals you have mind at the same time. This will only keep that positive cycle of energy growing and moving forward. 

Now that you have the basics, take this more positive attitude into wherever you happen to be. This is how lasting happiness is created in our moments that eventually lead us into the lives we’ve been dreaming about. Once you get the hang of it, no matter how far away your happiness seems to be, you can always come back to this idea. If you happen to be alone and need a boost, focus your attention on anything that makes you smile, or spend your time on something that is meaningful to you – and there you go! You’re back in the saddle again.

Building a happier life doesn’t have to feel like climbing Mount Everest. In fact, it’s not a climb at all with this energy at your disposal. Simply begin to put it in motion, appreciate that you can do this, and be willing to see where it takes you…Smile, and just remember – to keep both hands on the handle bars!