Getting Ourselves from Here to Happiness: Where Do We Begin?

Collectively, now that we’re beginning to gain some stability after a very uncertain time in history, most of us will naturally feel a little boost in energy. So now the question becomes how can we maintain some of the positive energy we’ve found?

If I asked anyone what their most important goal is they would probably tell you one of two things. They would tell you that they would like to have more of such and such in their lives, or they would like to find a way to become happier, more often. No matter what response you get, we all hope that our ideas will lead us to a much more positive place. So, we all have the same end goal in mind, even though the route might be a little different for everyone. So, what’s the first active step to achieving our happier end?

In listening to many different happiness teachers, you’ll notice that everyone has a different point of view on how to achieve this. While it’s good to have many different routes, it seems like we should all have a few universal suggestions on where to begin so that we’ll all eventually arrive at where we wanted to be, happily. So, my take on this is just a little bit different than what you might have expected.

To begin making happiness possible in my own life, I have to take two facts into account. The first is that I have to remember to start where I am. If I’m alone, then it’s up to me to see where I can grow my energy so that a happier state of mind is possible. A smile or a positive thought of any kind will begin to put me (or you) in the right place. Now that you know what this brief moment of happiness feels like, what else can you think of or do, so that this energy stays with you a little longer? Our body responds to any emotion in a fraction of a second. So as long as what we’re thinking about, observing or doing is making us feel good, then this is the best answer at least for now!

From here, you’ll probably be sharing a moment with someone. If you notice, most of us spend more time with other people than we do alone. And this is why “treating each other, as we would like to be treated,” is in fact – Golden. Making our time together enjoyable is not something that we have “to do.” We need to put our energy into something, so that we can cause a good effect to happen. So this action really isn’t a loss or a chore. It’s something we create together that makes our time so much more fun to be a part of; and it does more for us than we might realize. Remember the last time you enjoyed a moment with someone? Did this bring you more energy or less of it?

Not only does our combined energy make us feel happier, but since we consciously measure and process one experience at a time, you can see why these moments are so important for making happiness possible. The only difference from being alone is that we are making these positive emotions possible together. Since our emotions are felt in very close to real-time, this is something that we can start doing together immediately to grow the energy we have.

Nothing changes about us individually, except how good we feel and how much we appreciate the opportunity we have together. From here, we are building the happier roads we wanted to travel on, and this is how our successful lives are built. We’ve all been working very hard individually to “get happy” and this is why it’s been so difficult for us to stay in a more positive place.

So, if you would like to have more of anything good in your life, try making your moments with others a little more enjoyable for both of you. Realize that you are building up the energy you have for yourself and for others at the same time. In the world of desiring to have more of what you want, the losing proposition of only creating happiness “for me or for you,” doesn’t really exist; since we’ve always been here together.

When you make a more positive moment with others possible, you’ll see that these positive feelings will stay with you when you’re alone. You’ll have more clarity, energy, motivation and you’ll be able to see those larger dreams begin to come even closer to you. Because energy keeps moving and accumulating while we’re alone and together, we’re either traveling further up the road to feeling good, or we are headed in the opposite direction.

So, no matter where you are and what you desire to build on your road of happiness, since we spend more time with others, then everything good literally starts – here. Just maybe, knowing that you can have more joy in your relationships without changing who you are or where you wanted to be, it will be so much easier to make your situations a more positive place to be involved with.

If we made the choice to start making our moments a little more enjoyable together today, what would our lives look like tomorrow? Would we be closer or further away, from where we both really wanted to be?

I hope this has helped you remember that there was never anything to worry about in making our moments more enjoyable together, and getting to where we really wanted to be for ourselves. There was never supposed to be a separation in these two places to begin with…

Happiness begins by starting where you are, right now. I’m sure the next person you meet will agree, once you begin putting this energy back into your lives together, the happier vision you’ve imagined for so long, will be right there with you. And to know that you both made this possible for each other, and enjoyed your time together to boot…Well, how about that!

Jeff Sadowski is a holistic health sociologist, a life / executive coach and a business consultant from Amesbury, MA. He’s currently wrapping up his first book: A Place Where We Love to Be. He can be reached at: jsadowski321@gmail.com, https://onefullcircle.wixsite.com/home or 978-317-8578 for any comments, questions or suggestions.