4 Ways the Angels Build our Self-esteem

It was a hard time when my marriage was falling apart. I was used to finding solace in positive prayer and inner work, but the feelings of grief, anxiety, guilt and resentment in this situation were just too much. One day, when I was feeling totally overwhelmed, I happened to drive by some mounds of earth. Tractors were smoothing roads for a nearby shopping center. In the afternoon light, the freshly-tilled dirt was glowing copper-brown. Suddenly, I felt the Mexican goddess Tlazolteotl, calling out to me from the earth itself. I’d been researching and working with goddess energies, but I’d never read about or felt anything like this. With a kind of magnetic love force the earth herself was pulling me to her and saying, “Come, lay into me and give me your load.” I felt compelled to stop the car and get out to touch one of the mounds. As I did, I could feel the earth literally pulling the weight of unhappiness from me, restoring my inner peace.

The experience gave me a new understanding of Tlazolteotl, an advocation of the earth mother known as the refuse-eater who appears in ancient bark drawings with black lips and chin. She’s associated with forgiveness, healing and midwifery. We often think of angels as wispy fluffs that float around in the air, but the ancients beheld their presence up close, in the full array of natural and cosmic processes. The earth pulls leaves from the trees in fall and turns them into mulch, and the angels of transmutation work to extract obsolete energies and situations from us, facilitating our rebirths, as this Mexican goddess facilitates the work of midwives.

Self-esteem is a central part of our happiness and success, so supporting our confidence is one of angels’ specialties. These invisible helpers strengthen us to heal, to face and to walk through life’s challenges, to find and use our voice, to develop self-respect and a positive self-image, and to love and forgive ourselves and others.

Change your self-talk.

At best, most of us grew up absorbing ambivalent ideas about our self-worth. We carry around ingrained beliefs that can end up pulling us down in negative self-talk and keep us feeling unworthy of success and happiness.

Archangel Chamuel is a specialist in love and kindness, and he supports us in creating a new, positive self-dialogue.

The best time to invoke him is when you first wake up. Imagine him before you: a great, pink being. Feel him embrace you with his wings. If you can’t see him clearly, imagine a field of pink light surrounding you. Repeat 3 times: Archangel Chamuel, please fill me with your healing light and lift me in thoughts of loving kindness towards myself. Then spend 6 minutes looking in the mirror and telling yourself the things you like and appreciate about yourself.

Increase self-love.

Not to be confused with vanity, entitlement or airs of superiority, self-love is a healthy attitude that enables us to accept, forgive, enjoy, appreciate, care for and sometimes laugh at ourselves. Loving ourselves lifts our spirits, nurtures our cells with healing energy, feels good and tends to attract better situations into our lives.

Kuan Yin is an ancient goddess who’s orchid-flower heart radiates kindness towards all. To connect with her energy, imagine her before you. You may see her either as a field of soft, pearly light or as an oriental woman with her black hair put up in a bun, wearing a lovely, green tunic and a long necklace of jade beads. See her putting a pink orchid into the center of your chest as you repeat 3 times: Kuan Yin, goddess of infinite compassion, please put your orchid-heart in me, that I may embrace myself in healing love now. For the next 10 minutes, perceive the pink orchid in the center of your chest as you repeat, With the help of the goddess, I radiate love to my inner child now.

Forgive yourself and others

Forgiveness is an extremely powerful inner action that releases us from negative attachments and emotions. To forgive doesn’t mean that we accept abusive behavior. On the contrary, sometimes we need to leave people or situations in order to release them and ourselves fully. But physical distance alone won’t dissolve resentment and toxic guilt, which weigh like invisible but heavy shackles on our energy field. When we center in unconditional kindness and release judgmental thoughts to Source, we deepen our capacity for love and are freed from karmic attachments to those who have made us feel bad about ourselves. Also, forgiveness opens us to the flow of grace that is behind answered prayer.

When we’ve been hurt or abused, it can seem almost impossible to generate positive feelings toward the perpetrators. Equally, releasing chronic guilt feelings can seem quite challenging. There are angels that specialize in helping us forgive. Among them, purple flower spirits work to pull undesirable emotions and energies from us. Try the following invocation:

1) Repeat the following words: Angel of the Dark Rose, please come close and pull from me harsh attitudes towards myself and others.

2) Visualize a beautiful, purple rose before you, and feel it exert a magnetic force to pull resentment and self-deprecation from you.

3) Continue to experience this connection as you repeat: I release harsh thoughts to the angels, who are pulling them from me now.

Retrieve your voice

The ability to speak up is related to self-esteem. Sometimes we let fear keep us from expressing our ideas, feelings and needs. We can be afraid of what others will think of us, that we might sound ignorant, that we won’t have the right words, or on certain occasions, -that someone may get aggressive or talk us down.

Sometimes it’s good to wait before talking. We may wish to focus on listening, take a moment to make sure we speak kindly and truthfully, or calm our anger before engaging in a fight.

But often what holds us back is insecurity and self-doubt, like in the true story of an English girl who started her period and didn’t know what it was. She couldn’t find the nerve to ask about it and became so anguished that she ended up taking her life. This tragedy is an extreme example, but most of us sometimes swallow our fears and needs when we could have gotten help. And on occasion, we hold back our brilliance. When I was in college, one of my teachers told me that female students tended to present the best written work, but he was surprised that they were the least likely to speak up in class. Expressing our fears and needs is an act of self-care and expressing our ideas is positive participation. Each time we do, our confidence grows.

Michael is an angel of victory and power whose seat in the body is the throat chakra and who helps us retrieve our voice. At night, before going to bed, follow these simple steps:

Sit in a comfortable position (it’s better than laying down as you might fall asleep before finishing the exercise). Imagine Michael: a large, blue angel (or force field) standing before you. Ask him to unlock your voice, and “feel” him touching your throat with his hand, energy or wing. Feel him send blue light into it. Hold to this visualization for 3 minutes. Keep a notebook or paper and pen next to your bed, and when you wake up, write down something you would like to express: an idea, need or desire, or a limit you need to set. Repeat this exercise for 28 days.

During the day, pay attention to signs and act on them. For instance: sign up for the local Toastmaster’s group or for a course in public speaking, acting or writing; go to therapy, keep a journal, try work in sales, reach out to a mentor or positive friend.

Angels take an active interest in our well-being. When we invite them to participate in our self-work, they make a major difference. They know how bad it feels to doubt ourselves and, when invoked, will actively collaborate to make our path of self-esteem easier, more effective and even magical.

Crystal Pomeroy is the author of Angels and Goddesses, Manifest your Desires with Angelic Intelligence (Llewellyn 2022), which is packed with hundreds of affirmations, invocations and original tips for connecting with light beings and precipitating your powers of manifestation. She’s been working intensively as a healer and teaching metaphysics for more than twenty years and contributes tips on angels, healing, astrology, rituals and prosperity for newspapers and magazines in Spanish and English. Her YouTube videos have more than 600,000 views. www.crystalpomeroy.com Facebook: Crystal Pomeroy, Author and Healer