Are You Responding Or (Over) Reacting?

YOUR REACTIONS:

When a person says something to you that you know is wrong or unfair:
- Are you able to respond in a clear, empowered way or do you tend to have a 'knee jerk reaction' which is likely coming from an unconscious place with a lot of energetic charge?
- Rather than reacting, would you like to be able to respond in a way that feels clear and empowered?
Where do patterns of emotionally charged reactions originate from?

Most often, from childhood. Suppression of one's voice often starts around 2 years old. Why 2? Remember the term "terrible 2's"? That's when infants start realizing they are separate beings from their parents and discover they have free will. They discover the word "NO" and use it triumphantly - at first anyway. I think we should call them the "WONDERFUL 2's" because it shows an infant's normal development. Shouldn't this be cause for celebration??

Unfortunately, instead of recognizing the "NO" phase as a normal stage of healthy development, some inexperienced parents interpret their toddler's discovery of the word "no" as a threat to their authority. When this happens, a power struggle may begin between parent(s) and child in which the parent forces their will on a 2 year old to get them to do things their way. This stops the process of normal, healthy development.

Instead of the child becoming more confident and loving the process of discovering their own autonomy as a little being, his or her ability to identify and express their own thoughts, feelings and ideas becomes suppressed.

When this happens, it can lead to a lifelong pattern of feeling uncomfortable having one's own thoughts and opinions without feeling guilty. The fear of 'rocking the boat' learned early on results in an inability to speak one's authentic truth. This ends up causing insecurity and hurt, anger and resentment. In my lengthy experience as a counselor and healer, it also causes confusion and leads to codependency because the individual can become unable to differentiate between their thoughts and another person's thoughts.
Fear of rocking the boat by having one's own thoughts and opinions results in a person's inability to experience inner peace.

Suppressing one's authentic voice on a regular basis is also one of the main causes of physical and emotional conditions such as thyroid problems, anger, anxiety and more.
As I mentioned in the July newsletter, it is no accident that the thyroid is located in the throat chakra which is about self expression.
It was emotionally unhealthy if your parents discouraged you from having your own opinion. That might be where the over reaction or 'charge' is coming from currently when someone doesn't validate your feelings or opinions.

GETTING TO INNER PEACE:
If your goal is to increase your inner peace, start to become more aware of what comes up for you when the person you are with at any given moment, be it a partner, a boss, a parent etc. tries to force their opinion on you. If you notice yourself becoming confused or angry at that moment, promise yourself that you will take some time to explore what is behind your reaction. Do some journaling and give yourself permission to feel your feelings and honor your thoughts. There is a treasure chest of valuable information within you. Allow yourself to go a little deeper. This is an important step toward inner peace and you are worth it!

If you need help accessing the causes behind your triggers and would like to have them energetically dissolved so that you can start responding from a more empowered place, reach out for help. I am just a phone call or an email away.

Love, Ellie Pechet, Metaphysician, Remote Healer, Shaman www.PhoenixRisingHealing.com 508-237-4929