Divine Wisdom From Michele Livingston

Hello Vickie,

I’m certainly not Dear Abby or Dr. Phil, but there are some spiritual and psychological answers to these questions. When you said your husband would not participate in your lives, I assumed you had children, although you didn’t mention them. As you have hopefully learned, your husband is very immature and self-centered – that’s what drugs and alcohol can do. It seems you have taken the role of his "mother" – patching things up and accepting his disrespectful attitude. He knows he can manipulate you and can get away with destructive and selfish behavior. You’re not his mother and should respect yourself and your family enough to square your shoulders and move on. This can be difficult, especially if you were raised in an abusive family situation yourself and are used to this kind of behavior.

Your friend, Mike, it seems was an interim relationship to help get you from point A to point B, in this case away from your husband. In one’s lifetime there are many interim relationships to support or bridge gaps between segments of our lives. Mike is a soul connection and most likely you have known him in past lives. That does not mean he needs to be a future husband. Mike is probably looking for a stable and committed wife for himself and a good mother for his son. When you returned to your husband, it also sent mixed signals to Mike. You "need to be needed" and taking care of a husband who can’t take care of himself or anyone else fills that bill. The "energy" you felt from Mike was good, loving energy – something you’re not used to, especially from your husband. The sooner you sign the divorce papers and get out of the yo-yo syndrome, the better for you and your family.

You mentioned auras, and yes we can carry around negativity from others in our auras. If you’ve read my "Wisdom" column consistently, you should know how to cleanse your aura. Prayers of protection and soaking baths with Epsom salts and baking soda are crucial. There are many men out there who will treat you as an equal and respect you as a person. There will be other "Mikes," when the time is right and when you’re not carrying around negative baggage – hopefully in the near future. After you’re divorced and settled, you can make a list to attract a significant other. On a blank sheet of paper, write down your full given name. Under that write:

Then, write down three to five qualities that you want in another person. Respect, dependability and honesty would be a good starting point. Make two copies of the list. Put one in your purse to carry with you and put one in your pillowcase or on your nightstand. Every day, pray over the lists by saying, "Please send me this person for both our highest good." In earthly time it takes about two months to two years for a new companion to be by your side. Let the universe bring you a good partner and let Mike go for now. Believe you’re worthy, reclaim your self-esteem and start anew. Good luck to you!

Dear Silvia,

Anything is possible with the spirit realms. Wait and see how your granddaughter develops. A human soul will retain its mind, personality and memory bank. Many souls like to come down generational lines and stay in one family. A child has a "knowing" in the formative years (1 to 5) because they are in a different energy frequency. They also can remember vivid details from past lives. Look for traits, qualities, idiosyncrasies, phobias, likes or dislikes and general behavior that would be similar to your mother. Encourage your granddaughter to tell you who she sees or hears from the invisible spirit world and if she remembers anything before she came here. As she matures you will undeniably know if she is your mother in a new form or body. If she is your mother returned, be honored that your mother loved her immediate family so much to return so soon! In any case, if she is not your mother your mother is probably a spirit guide of hers because of the birth date and crossing date of January 30th, being the same.

Dear Diane,

Just the fact that you’re thinking of forgiving your step-father for his action means you are rapidly progressing on your spiritual journey! Forgiveness is synonymous with love. The Christ set an example when as he was being crucified said, "Forgive them for they know not what they do."

To cut the cord of negativity you don’t physically have to go and forgive him — you can do it mind to mind and soul to soul. I will give you a simple exercise that is brought up at many of my seminars. Before you go to sleep at night, visualize your stepfather’s face in your mind’s eye. Try to see his face as plainly as you can. Now surround his face with pure white light and say to him, "I understand that you’re a hurting human being. What you did to me is unfathomable and cruel. But I do forgive you, I love you and I release you to the universe." Do this nightly until you feel a sense of relief. Your step-father is hearing you in his soul mind, if not his conscious mind. You’ll find, Diane, that you feel lighter, happier and free after you do this exercise. God bless you.